tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467540753293114114.post180570911674807223..comments2023-10-08T07:06:26.522-07:00Comments on {him, me, & the pipsqueak}: Sleep Training (or lack of)--LIVEannahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17990028836081850834noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467540753293114114.post-8356755963230471552013-10-18T12:18:40.651-07:002013-10-18T12:18:40.651-07:00Oh gosh, Anna! First off, congratulations on your ...Oh gosh, Anna! First off, congratulations on your little man! I've been reading your blog on and off for a while and really enjoy it. I definitely feel you on this post and had a very similar struggle with my son, Adrian, when he was born - slept great at night, but would not nap for us. I'm sure you've read and heard many opinions, but I wanted to share what eventually worked for us/him. I would wrap him up in his sleep sack and just sit still for 5 minutes with him - no rocking, talking, or stimulation. Then we was calm and sleepy, but not asleep, and I'd put him in his crib. It became our way to signal to him that it was time to sleep. It's hard to listen to your little man cry, when you know he just needs sleep! Good luck!Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00478119679805898381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467540753293114114.post-52094049591302118772013-10-17T16:07:36.140-07:002013-10-17T16:07:36.140-07:00We've gone through phases with Eli, I've l...We've gone through phases with Eli, I've learned there will always be phases. At first he would go down just fine. Then he hit a stage where it would literally take us 3.5hrs every night to put him down, it was awful! We couldn't let him CIO or sleep train because he would throw up all.over.himself. I'm not talking like an ounce or two, his entire stomach contents. He used to do it in the car in his car seat too. Ugh. <br />We eliminated his third nap and we don't let him nap after 6pm, voila it only takes us 30min to put him down now. It's amazing. <br />Every child is SO different, what may work for us, may not work for you. <br />Night time is still a struggle, especially when he teeths. It's like any sort of routine we have gets tossed out the window. Now we struggle with him waking up after only an hour of sleeping at night. Josh goes in there and pats his back and tells him it's okay while he cries for a minute or two, but he tends to go back to sleep. He finally grew out of the puking while crying stage. Thank goodness. <br />I'll be praying for you friend! <br />Oh by the way, we are coming to the bay area for thanksgiving. Would love to finally meet you!!Ana Ohhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13184719954419957061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467540753293114114.post-64279429100117417462013-10-17T15:37:10.004-07:002013-10-17T15:37:10.004-07:00Paula! Thanks so much for your comment...and for ...Paula! Thanks so much for your comment...and for everyone else that matter. Funny how knowing that other people successfully trained their kids to sleep makes it so much easier. Jack is on a pretty good schedule during the day and I've found that works great for him too. Night time is a bit for sporadic though. ugh. Although last night he woke up at 11:00 and we had him cry to go back to sleep. Maybe 2 minutes and he was out again. Yay!<br /><br />And yes, I know deep down inside that I'm not psychologically ruining my child. I know...but it sure feels like it haha. Anyways, you and your husband have done an AWESOME job raising your kids. So, if it worked out for you...than I'm game haha. :)<br /><br />Thanks everyone! I love all your advice and support. I'm a lot more emotionally stable now haha.annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17990028836081850834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467540753293114114.post-37089439339587830122013-10-17T11:31:09.579-07:002013-10-17T11:31:09.579-07:00Anna, I have been reading your blog off and on for...Anna, I have been reading your blog off and on for a while now. I first want to say congratulations to you and Jason on the birth of your beautiful son. I appreciate your honest posts as you learn how to be a mom to Jack. <br />I can still remember back to when Daniel was born (over 22 years ago) and how Tom & I struggled so with the whole sleep thing those first couple of months. We had friends who had a daughter the same age as Daniel and their baby was sleeping through the night, etc. They clued us in on the whole sleep training method, which really comes down to having your baby on a schedule (eating & sleeping). We found that both of our kids thrived on a schedule, and so did we (the parents). <br />Those first few nights were tough, but it didn't take long and that guy got it! Boy was I thankful that Daniel had a good sleep pattern established by the time his sister was born 16 months after him. We did the same thing with Sarah, and started to sleep train her when she was about 6 weeks old. We had a monitor with a light bar. We would turn the sound off, and just watch the bars, which was easier on me than hearing the cries. Please know that you are not psychologically damaging your child by letting him cry it out and teaching him to get to sleep on his own. Daniel & Sarah are secure, well-adjusted young adults who seem to still love us very much :-). They've never said, "remember when I was a baby and I cried in my crib and you wouldn't come pick me up, you were so mean!". <br />Like you said, he needs his sleep & you need him to sleep too. You are doing the right thing Anna. I know it's tough, but hang in there, be strong... it will be worth it in the end. Once you guys get this thing down, you'll be ready for the next parenting challenge, then the next one, then the next one ... <br />I will be praying for strength for you, unity for the both of you, and sleep for Jack.<br />:-) Paula Phillips Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07684841196279614733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467540753293114114.post-82889626650549352562013-10-17T06:24:30.375-07:002013-10-17T06:24:30.375-07:00I like Bethany's voice. It is different with ...I like Bethany's voice. It is different with the third, too. I feel much more "It'll be okay either way..." The first is just plain hard!!jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17279853261402516225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467540753293114114.post-78200198459819899122013-10-16T22:48:17.217-07:002013-10-16T22:48:17.217-07:00My first I let cry it out at about 6 months. I tho...My first I let cry it out at about 6 months. I thought it was going to kill me! But then after 2 nights it worked! And it was glorious. My second was a fabulous sleeper all on her own - still is - its just the way she is. Now on my third I chose to rock her to sleep every.single.nap.and.bedtime. Never really had her CIO. Why? I suppose because I just wanted as many snuggles as possible. I completely believe CIO works but I just didn't want to do it. So I didn't. Then I started to worry she would never fall asleep on her own. But alas between 9&12 months she started balking at being rocked to sleep and just wants to be laid down while awake. Works for me. <br /><br />All this to say - that's the great part about parenthood - you can do what works for your family. And you certainly can change your mind. Why not let him CIO in the evenings so you can have time with hubby but rock him to sleep for naps since you are home alone with him and have the time then?!? Just my 2¢. Bethanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02384955527881982899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467540753293114114.post-26483325310650453962013-10-16T20:42:09.692-07:002013-10-16T20:42:09.692-07:00Aw...I feel your pain. I have zero advice because ...Aw...I feel your pain. I have zero advice because John can't fall asleep in his own yet either. (Actually, today was the first time - he was put in the swing drowsy with classical piano music). I need to work in this to. At least I can pray for you at the same time I want to scream my brains out over it! Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08609502925228202028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8467540753293114114.post-46808210546073862722013-10-16T19:00:21.120-07:002013-10-16T19:00:21.120-07:00Oh Anna, I don't want to be "Miss-Opinion...Oh Anna, I don't want to be "Miss-Opinionated-Mom-of-3" commenter here... but I feel ya.<br /><br />I completely remember crying when we made Bella cry-it-out for the first time. But, after two days, it was worth it. Summer had to cry eventually because Travis was deployed and I just dang wasn't getting any sleep. And she eventually got it. Both are well-adjusted, happy, loving, secure girls.<br /><br />Rhett has had a rough two weeks. Won't sleep anymore and is fussy. Does it bother me? Heck, yes! I feel terrible for him and especially since I know it's probably teething and will last for a few more months. I also feel at a loss if I should keep going in there and plugging him up with the paci or making him cry it out. Some nights I do both. Sometimes I can handle more crying because I just need a break from holding him... and other times, I don't mind getting him.<br /><br />I think that you just do what you feel is right. Crying never hurt any baby (well, you know what I mean) and they won't/don't remember a thing. Grace right there! Get some rest, Mama... and love on that baby of yours. I know I'm dealing with the same thing clear in Florida. Sometimes it helps just knowing you're not alone. :-)jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17279853261402516225noreply@blogger.com