I have this rare break where I feel like...hey, I'm going to sit down, relax, and maybe blog. House is mostly clean ;), laundry is mostly done...and I only have a couple of orders pending...which I need to get supplies for after naptime soooo...here I am.
We have been in Tempe for 3 months.
And we need to find a church.
We've actually been going to one church the whole time we've been here. It was recommended to us by a friend in San Franciso. It's fine. I mean, it's Gospel centered and pretty friendly...and they love Jesus so yeah.
But there is one thing that we are having trouble with.
Okay, so here's my thing. I've always thought that we come at church hunting pretty selfishly. Very "what can I get out of it" versus "what can I contribute". I think as Christians we can be a little whiney and "waaa waaaa I don't like this, this, and that so I'm outta here". So we have TRIED to keep an open mind. I mean...we've given it about 3 months. We joined a small group/class. We've tried you guys. Triiiiiiiiiiied.
But I just can't.
I can't do it.
I cannot get passed the worship. It is smoke machines, light shows (that literally laser you in the eyes), performer focused. The congregation hardly sings and I am so. stinking. uncomfortable. I dread it. Literally am relieved when it's over. I mean I'm sure the worship leaders love Jesus. I do not doubt that at all. I think though that maybe there might be a little room to step back and let the Spirit move within people on it's own? Like maybe God doesn't need THAT much help. Oooh. Is that messed up to say? I have no problem with contemporary music, not singing hymns, etc. If they kept their style and songs as is and just toned it down I think we would be fine but yeah. Apparently I am old, lame, and boring and I just can't deal.
We have really enjoyed the pastor and his sermons though. They are always Bible focused and right on and so that's what makes it hard...and seemingly like a dumb choice to seek out another place of worship. I don't know. Maybe we will come crawling back.
Finding a church is definitely tough.
I know that it took a little while to feel completely at ease at our church in San Francisco. It had a completely different set up. We took Communion every Sunday, stood up, sat down, prayed the same prayers, followed the church calendar and etc. But it was a good church. They LOVED the city of San Francisco and served it in beautiful, huge ways. Currently they are going through a bit of an upheaval on their stand on gay marriage. While I don't agree with their opinion on it I don't know if it would warrant us leaving the church if we were still there like many have. The Gospel is there and God is working and I think there is grace for those who don't quite have the right answers to the questions out there...heck...I don't know the right answers. The Gospel is still very much intact but apparently the pastor and some of the elders (some left because of it) have a different interpretation on gay marriage.
City Church's stand practically went viral in the "Church World". And it just has me thinking. Is there something wrong with me that I would be willing to stay at a church that finds gay marriage acceptable (they are allowing gay married couples to become members if they wish, versus before they would only allow people who are struggling with being gay but are celibate) but I'm not willing to stay at a church because they have cheesy, over the top worship?!? I just feel like that's weird and maybe I need to check myself. I don't know. I've always took far too much pride in my "consistent philosophical thinking". My philosophy background has both ruined me and helped me immensely. I understand that the issue of homosexuality is a HUGE thing in San Francisco. Having made a few good friends that are homosexuals...and having Jason walk along side a friend and have conversations with him AS he was processing his sexuality and "coming out" has made us realize that it's a big, complex, personal, crazy thing and they are people. They are real people who need our love and friendship like every one else in the world. And I'm not going to call them sinners because seriously, who the heck am I?!? While I have my opinions on what constitutes a marriage under God it really doesn't matter what I think at the end of the day. It doesn't.
I am very conservative on many fronts and yet I think that as I get older I realize that there is a lot of grey out there. A lot of grey because people are not black and white. We don't fit into nice neat categories 100% of the time. We fluctuate, we change, we grow, we sin, we have moments of faith, moments of weakness, moments of strength, and moments of utter failure. We are poor sinners who need a Savior and we are so very "grey" most of the time. A mix of good, bad, and ugly. And Jesus loves us just the same. And therefore...I will love those around me just the same. Because I'm no better. And God knows. And God judges. And that is so very much enough for me. I mean really, it's a relief. Because it's a heck of a lot of pressure to feel like you have to have and know the right answers to everything. WOW THAT WAS A TANGENT! :)
Anywhooooooooo, back to the original thing about the worship.
So what do you think? Should we suck it up? Is it enough to warrant looking for another church? Dish it baby! :)
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